After years of working up to having sex with the all the lights on (yes, it takes most men that long to convince us they're not looking at the cellulite on our thighs or our wobbly timmies.)  Now you turn off the lights but make room as close to total darkness as possible. Then blindfold each other. Why By removing the sense of sight you heighten all others - most particularly touch. (It's the reason why lots of people close their eyes while kissing or during sex, so they can focus fully on the sensation.) Robbed of our eyesight, we're also more aware of each other's breathing and moaning, and all the other sounds of sex, which tend to get lost when we can see. Yet another bonus: there's an element of surprise. Once your lover breaks contact, you can't see where they're headed next, until you feel a hand caressing the inside of your thigh, here some shockingly filthy thoughts whispered in your ear, and feel a tongue in the place you least expected it.